Tips to awaken, recognize, nourish, cultivate and honor Your Inner Strength that will leave you feeling grounded, supported and able to accomplish anything.
So the big question is: What has changed?
Think back to the last 5 programs you did and ask yourself… What has really changed?
Chances are you made a ton of notes, you had a lot of realizations and lots of plans for how to add the learnings to your life.
But then you get home, or back to work and after a day or two, it has all been put on the back burner. Sure there were some valuable discoveries and you really did learn the information. And yet our daily to do’s and challenges are still waiting for us when we return.
Could it be we are looking in the wrong place?
We have become so accustomed to the pattern of thinking when something challenges us we need something to face it. Okay well, let’s test that theory. Who here wants to lose weight? How about who wants to save more for retirement? What about who wants to change careers? Now think about what do you need to know to make that happen?
Well, eat less move more. Put money in savings and don’t spend it. Book interviews and quit. See we actually already know what we need to do. We simply don’t do it. And our solution is… take another empowerment workshop. Read another self-help book. Register for another self-development retreat or workshop. Ultimately we keep adding knowledge hoping for a new result.
So if we have all the knowledge we need, how are we not able to do what we want when we want? Could it be there is something else in the way?
I say YES! And I have been able to see through personal experience, through teaching, and in working directly with my clients for many years what the secret ingredient is. The answer is to awaken our own inner strength. To understand it, nourish it, to cultivate and honour it.
I believe we are forgetting who we are. What we have accomplished and what we have overcome. We are forgetting that we are own guru, that we know what works for us, what doesn’t. We know what we need and what we don’t like.
“Self-improvement represents a $10 billion per year industry in the U.S. alone. In addition to high revenues, self-help also has a high recidivism rate, with the most likely purchaser of a self-help book being the same person who purchased one already in the last 18 months. This begs the question of how much good these self-help books and seminars are doing for consumers. If they are so effective at solving our problems, why do they usually result in a continuing stream of self-help purchases?” Brainblogger
Awakening your Inner Strength
If there is one thing you can count on it is inconsistency. Our journey is full of ups and downs. Challenges come and some even become obstacles. Opportunities become wins or steps we regret not taking. One thing I know is that the key to building success in life is to look within. No matter if it is in relationships, goals, dreams or work. The one constant is always YOU.
We can either find ourselves feeling like we are trying to keep our canoe afloat as we paddle hard against the current. Or we can cultivate our inner strength and be with our own current where we can travel great distances and feel like we are in the flow of the current.
For me and my clients, our greatest successes have come when we have found, nourished and cultivated our inner strength. Even when times are tough, it is this strong inner strength that gets us through it.
Tips to Awaken Your Inner Strength!
Seeing ourselves for who we give us strength like nothing else. But how we apply it is what really determines it’s power. You see we can either look in and judge what we see, or we can look in and nourish, cultivate and honor what we see. The best part is that it is in the struggles that we have the opportunity to learn the most.
I experienced this when I got sick (Read more about this experience by clicking here). You see at first I felt alone like I didn’t have the knowledge I needed. I felt unsupported when the doctor brushed off my concerns. It was actually at my wit’s end as we say when I was the most down that I found the answers I needed. I called a friend and was referred to a new doctor. Then, I recognized I needed someone who was my advocate and I stood for myself getting that. I leaned into what made me free good and lessened my symptoms. This awareness led me to dive into my yoga practice further, to understand how to calm my body and mind from stress.
Give yourself time
We are always in a hurry to fix things and often this gets in the way of our success. Maybe it is all the quick fixes we have in our society that has made us feel we need to react so quickly. The 10-minute workout, the 5-minute dinners, drive-through windows, and Franklin Covey teaching us to be more somehow. Some how it’s like we took that as we have to react right now to everything.
All it takes is to give yourself permission to take the time you need! Sound simple? Well, it isn’t. It will take recognizing the pattern we have to quick fix problem solve. And then an active decision to hold space.
Consider what the issue really is
When we move so quickly to solve a problem we often spend very little time on understanding the root cause. The result is we end up with a new problem, or the same problem showing up in a new way. One way to get clear on what is happening is to use the 5 Whys process.
Benefits of the 5 Whys
- Help identify the root cause of a problem.
- Determine the relationship between different root causes of a problem.
- One of the simplest tools; easy to complete without statistical analysis.
How to Complete the 5 Whys
- Write down the specific problem. Writing the issue helps you formalize the problem and describe it completely. It also helps a team focus on the same problem.
- Ask Why the problem happens and write the answer down below the problem.
- If the answer you just provided doesn’t identify the root cause of the problem that you wrote down in Step 1, ask Why again and write that answer down.
- Loop back to step 3 until the team is in agreement that the problem’s root cause is identified. Again, this may take fewer or more times than five Whys.
Here is an example
- Problem Statement: You are on your way home from work and your car stops in the middle of the road.
- 1. Why did your car stop? – Because it ran out of gas.
- 2. Why did it run out of gas? – Because I didn’t buy any gas on my way to work.
- 3. Why didn’t you buy any gas this morning? – Because I didn’t have any money.
- 4. Why didn’t you have any money? – Because I lost it all last night in a poker game.
- 5. Why did you lose your money in last night’s poker game? – Because I’m not very good at “bluffing” when I don’t have a good hand.
As you can see, the final Why leads to a statement (root cause) that you can take action upon. It is much quicker to come up with a solution to the stated problems when we take a moment to further investigate. If you find yourself still not sure, continue the process with 5 more whys and go until you are clear.
Understand your needs
Our lives are lived in a noisy world. Distractions and disruptions have become our new norm. They chip away at our ability to feel grounded and supported. What I had to learn was that my body and mind need time to rejuvenate. Imagine all the distractions are like eating an apple, even though you have finished eating it your body isn’t done. Did you know that Apples take about 40 minutes to complete the digest? The same is true for what our mind takes in.
Giving ourselves downtime is very important. The method is of little importance. For some, it is quiet time, even meditation. Maybe it’s doing something creative. Think about how you feel about day 3 of your vacation. You’ve settled in, your body and mind are becoming less cluttered with the daily to-do lists and expectations. You’re physically feeling better and often our daily aches and pains lessen. This feeling is what we are striving for every day. The feeling of calm, peaceful balance in our body and mind.
For me, this meant taking 10 minutes twice a day to just stop. Often it is being in nature for a walk or hike. Sometimes it is literally just resting in a comfortable place. Definitely includes my yoga practice where I allow a flow of movement that is unplanned with no expectations, simply feeling into what is there to be discovered. It’s taking time to play cards as a family. A bubble bath with soft music. Or even the occasional glass of wine.
I also found that there was a necessity to look at how I schedule my work and the expectations I often set are very high. So my needs also include accepting things don’t need to be perfect and that I can only do so much on my own. This taught me to get comfortable asking for help, collaborating and being with others. I learned to recognize how I held myself back with unreasonable expectations.
Have support that supports
We all love that friend who supports us no matter what. We leave simply feeling better about ourselves. And even when they challenge us to look within we feel safe. This is the key! We need people in our lives who will challenge us to look deeper than the surface of our emotions. To look within ourselves for the answers. Who genuinely want us to feel stronger!
Watch out for those who drain our energy. Who wants to be the person who gives you the solutions. Yes, they want to help, but ultimately they are taking the power of out our own hands. To benefit to awakening the strength within is to recognize that it is always there for us.
Chose for yourself
When you have weighed all the possible options. Chose. Chose proudly. No matter what the result is. Resilience comes from both success and failure.