Why I love Personal Development?
So, What Is Personal Development?
According to wikipedia: “Personal development covers activities that improve awareness and identity,develop talents and potential, build human capital and facilitate employability, enhance the quality of life and contribute to the realization of dreams and aspirations.”
You know that saying “you can’t pour from an empty cup”, or to take care of yourself you have to put your oxygen mask on first?
Imagine this, what if your cup is overflowing? Or you are full of energy? Would it change how you feel giving some of that energy and away?
What if by filling my cup everyday and choosing to fill my oxygen first I am able to give more of myself without ever feeling depleted?
Personal development is not just a way of solving problems; it is a way of growing. It is your way to a better life, to become an improved version of yourself.
If You Need To Work On Yourself, Does That Mean That You Are Not Good Enough?
The most successful people in the world invest time to work on themselves consistently. All you have to do to see this is look at Warren Buffet, Tony Robbins or Oprah. Even if they have millions and billions of dollars, they still continue to learn. According to the Oprah.com article “What Happens to Your Brain When You Learn Something New”
1. Novel experiences give you a rush of the reward chemical dopamine.
2. Breaking your routine can make time seem to pass more slowly. Repetition puts us on autopilot, and when we’re paying less attention, the hours—and years—seem to fly by.
3. Learning something new causes the brain to build connections between neurons, replacing some of those we lose over time.
4. You actually can be bored to death: Researchers at University College London followed roughly 7,500 civil servants for more than 20 years and found that those who reported high levels of boredom early on were more than twice as likely to die of heart disease.
5. You don’t have to freak out about failure: Cultivating a growth mind-set (“I’ll get better!”), as opposed to a fixed mind-set (“I’m hopeless!”), fosters perseverance and resilience, according to Carol Dweck, PhD, Stanford University professor of psychology and author of Mindset: The New Psychology of Success. And here’s the beauty of getting older: Who cares if someone sees you screw up?
Basically this habit is like feeding your brain with positive and educational things every day!
The results? You are happier, you are motivated, you are inspired, you have more energy, you have better quality relationships, you inspire others and SO MANY MORE.
Since beginning my daily personal development journey I am more inspired than ever before. I have more ideas and my self-awareness is on fire! I simply understand myself better, I see my strengths and opportunities more clearly.
Developing the Ambition
If you are reading this likely you already have a desire or interest which is the first step. But here are some things that will help you on your journey.
The more you know and learn about yourself the more control you have over your happiness. One of my favorite learnings is from Tony Robbins, the 6 basic human needs. Watch his TedTalk about this idea by clicking this link.
As you can see four of them are personality needs and two of them are spiritual needs. Our personality needs are certainty, need for variety, need for significance and need for connection and love.
Spiritually we also need growth and contribution. This is where personal development comes in. By developing ourselves we are able to grow our own capacity, strength and ability. Naturally the result is we are able to contribute in our lives in a much stronger way.
Where to Start?
You may be thinking to yourself, that all sounds great, but how do I start. Especially with SO many options. One thing is for sure, we live in a culture of self-help guru’s and experts. It can easily become an overwhelming task. So my advice is to start small.
My challenge to you is to invest just 30 minutes a day. You can read a book, watch a YouTube video, find a documentary on Netflix. You can also join my Facebook Group each day we share what we have done. You’ll find inspirational videos, books and ideas, as well as a great community of people sharing their challenges and solutions. All in a safe environment with no sales pitches or things to buy.
Consider Attending a Live Event
After being a reader and watcher of YouTube for many years of events I thought I had gotten all I could from the knowledge. That was until I went to see Tony Robbins. I will say first that I have probably watched, read or seen his message the most. And what I didn’t understand until seeing him in person was the effect of the experience. It isn’t just about the information, the sayings or the ideas, it is so much more than that. The transfer of energy you get from being at a live training is like a shot of B Vitamin. It fills you with energy!
I thought back to when I have learned the most or things had the most impact on me. Interestingly they had all been when I was at a training event. Hearing Will Marre tell us stories from his book “Save the World and still be home for dinner”. This 4 day event changed so much for me, he talked about being present, taking care of yourself and recognizing the patterns we fall in. I remember hearing about the story climbing the mountain with his son, there was literally not a dry eye in the house.
So I’m not saying don’t read or watch YouTube, I still do this every day. What I’m saying is grasp those opportunities to go to an event where and when you can. No only will you learn from the experts, but also from those you attend with. You also get to ask questions or discuss topics with fellow attendees over breaks and at lunch. And the best part, the energy and inspiration from that event can last for months.
Here is the best part… it doesn’t have to be some big celebrity speaker, check your local library, community centre or business group. You can even check in with your local university and sit in on a class. There are plenty of learning opportunities all around us.
I’d love to hear about your favorite personal development moment or experience. Your favorite books, videos or events. Please share in the comments.